Archive - How (Not) to Be a Man

How (Not) to Throw a Holiday Party

Plus, some of my favorite things of 2023 and a ton of martini talk!

Dec 22, 2023 •

How (Not) to Get Old

Plus, my thoughts on the new Adidas Fear of God collab

Dec 11, 2023 •

October 2023

How (Not) to Wear Socks

Plus, the HBO Mr. Chow Doc, and More

Oct 25, 2023 •

How (Not) to be in a Movie

Literal "big" fits that millions of people will see

Oct 11, 2023 •

September 2023

How (Not) to Wear a Neckerchief

Plus, a final goodbye to summertime cocktails on the patio

Sep 11, 2023 •

August 2023

How (Not) to Travel

Or, Why Packing Light Is a God-Level Decision

Aug 21, 2023 •

How to Come to Terms With Your Sexuality

Plus what to do about moths in your vintage clothes

Aug 4, 2023 •

July 2023

How (Not) to Wear a Tuxedo

But first, I excavate the death of the LA Dream

Jul 16, 2023 •

What Are My Favorite Pants?

Subscriber Q&A Time!

Jul 10, 2023 •

How (Not) to Wear a Hoodie

One thing I promise to never do to you is lie in this newsletter.

Jul 2, 2023 •

June 2023

A private space for us to converse and connect

Jun 18, 2023 •

How to Properly Enjoy Chest Hair

A year or so ago, I wrote a piece for the LA Times about the little pleasures of showing chest hair. I had just started embracing the fact that I have a…

Jun 11, 2023 •

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